YAPOL...

Well...

The previous post attracted quite a few heated opinions...When reading the opinions, I realised another interesting issue (which I had also discussed with one of my friends in Trilogy in one of those hour-long chats).

One of the opinions claimed that girls won't generally prefer to propose first. Going by this, I conclude that it is the boys who have to propose first. But here is where I find the hitch. There is one trait in girls, which, at least a few guys like me, find it awful /incompatible /apprehensible /....whatever you may call : the lack of the ability to maintian the status-quo of the relationship. Most of the girls tend to keep away from the guy who proposed to them. I find this absurd. He would have been a long time good friend before he proposed, and all of a sudden, he becomes an outcast. A guy, who has liked the girl so much that he decides her to be his life partner, obviously will not want to lose her relationship. If girls can be rational and maintain the pre-proposal state of affairs, then guys proposing first will not be an issue.

For those who are still wondeering what YAPOL means, it is Yet Another Post On Love.

p.s: When writing this post, I had to be extra conscious to avoid generalisations;-)

Love is in the air...

Ahhh.....

Yet another Valentine's day...I became aware of this only yesterday as I saw cars flying past with a lot of little hearts decorating them. So, what shall I do for this v-day? This question shouldn't be occurring to me as I have never done anything for any of the gone by v-days (so is the case for many other functions/occasions as well...I just do nothing!). Well, this question comes into picture as I was just now talking with my colleague and he wanted something 'dramatic' to happen. He suggested going around with, say 15 roses and trying his luck! I wished him the best of luck (as that is all I can do...I am in no mood to get slippered with a critical deadline round the corner;-)).

As he left, I was just wondering what could be 'dramatic'. Suddenly it dawned on me: Why not girls propose first instead of the guys doing it first. I guess both parties do take the initiative, but most cases I know of are the ones where the guy takes the initiative to propose. I can't help but quote Anto here..."It is we who who should dream about them always...It is we who should go doting after them...It is we who should spend during all the dinners...It is we who should propose first...It is we who should get all the 'bulbs' ('bulbs' is a slang used to denote turned down proposals). Anto is just one step short of beginning a 'Men's upraisal movement'!!!!!

I guess I have done my part for this v-day....a post as usual...And one more thing, this will be the last v-day that I'll be idle. The story will be different next year (hopefully :-))...
So.................................



HURRY UP ;)

Pornography legalised...

DISCLAIMER: The following material may be offensive for some. Read it at your own discretion.

The other day I got an oppurtunity to see an interview of Kamal Hasan. He was pretty open and direct, as he always is. The topic of discussion was meandering and touching various topics when at last it got to the topic of this post- Legalising pornography. What follows is a brief recollection of the discussion.

DISCLAIMER repeated.

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One of the greatest studs in the international film industry, Mr.X (I couldn't remember his name), who was also a member of a well known jury, came up with this proposal, it seems. He was chucked off for this seemingly offensive idea by the superficial minds. First, it seemed too offensive for Kamal as well. But on deeper reflection, it dawned upon him that it was indeed a great idea.

Kamal's claims in favor of legalisation:

'Curiosity kills the cat'. Particularly in India, where a guy gets to feel his carnal pleasures at the age of 25+ on an average, this curiosity is bound to get ten fold. Inability or lack of infrastructure (particularly with the uneducated masses) in getting the desired information leads the bewildered curious minds to such extents of frustration that they get into 'practical experimentation' . The easiest access they have are sex-workers...STDs follow spelling their lives into doom.

One interesting fact Kamal pointed out was that in many schools, the encyclopaedia pages depicting the male and female anatomy were glued in order to 'not corrupt' the children's minds.

If porn is legalised, every common man gets to see the "most concealed taboo" of the society for ordinary prices. He'll see it once, twice...may be even hundred times. But he has found a vent to his desires. Once he gets to know of the essentials, that's it. "Is that all?". He stops watching these and starts concentrating on his life-ambitions. This is atleast better that this won't get him any STDs.

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Seemed pretty logical to me!

Three fundas in lover-search :)

What follows is an excerpt from an interview of actor Madhavan's. The questions, asked by college students, were monotonously centered around love and love-marriage. Madhavan gave three funda for people determined to find their true-love...I liked the third one the most ;-)

Funda #1 : Try, try, try...Till you succeed...

Funda #2: Fortune favors the brave...

Funda #3: There's always this magic word: NEXT.

Note: Two cine-actors, who make real sense off-screen (in real life, TV interviews,...) are Kamal Hasan and Madhavan. After seeing a few of their interviews, I made it a point not to miss any of theirs!

So much to write...

It has been a real looooooooooooooong time since I wrote anything. I had wanted to write on many topics but finding time is the problem. Night times are most amiable for my writing skills. Unfortunately my profession also demands me to write (plans, code, etc.) that my nights are being used up by my professional creativity alone.

Well, I am just jotting down some of which I can remember about which I would want to create a separate post once I find some time.

• The Microsoft annual party- put on fire by Kay Kay and Sunidhi Chauhan. I got an oppurtunity to sing the chorus (that is how I'll term it ;-)) with Kay Kay!!!
• My vacation in hometown.
• The Bangalore friends' visit to Hyderabad.
• Kamal Haasan's interview on TV.
• Snippets of Madhavan on love-life.
• And the latest....Reviving of Tennis.

I am writing this post at the end of one of legendary matches I have EVER seen. Though it was Safin who had the last laugh, it was classic quality tennis that won at the end of the day. Hats off to two great champions-Roger Federer and Marat Safin!!!!!!

After the retirement of my idol Pete Sampras, hardly have I followed tennis. But this Australian Open has been too good for hard-core tennis fans. So many matches going into the deciders and they too, stretching beyond the minimal 6 games limit. Too good!

Let us see. I want the remaining semi-final and the finals also to be nail biting as well.

Love all!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Integrity in behavior

Many a times, I have discussed about this word 'integrity in behavior' with my friend/house mate Anto. I am going to write about this "integrity" in the context of the people I meet everyday. Though there are multitude dimensions in which integrity can be discussed, there is just one context, quite a recurrecnt one, about which I'll write here: "Integrity in behavior towards people".

Quite often, I find people exhibiting different behavior in different places.During a casual chat, their behavior is normal but when it comes to a bigger social gathering, their outlook is totally different from what I see everyday. Please don't confuse this lack of integrity with sophistication.

Another remarkable example is the behavior among members of the same-sex and with that of the opposite-sex members. Though I don't know if this applies to girls as well, I know for sure that this is the case with a considerable number of guys I have seen. Some guys turn a 'macho-man' in front of girls..Some try to play a 'hep'...Some portray a 'cho chweet guy' while their true persona(which I see everyday) stinks.

FEMINISTS SKIP THIS PARAGRAPH...And the funniest part in this is that most girls fall for these guys only. As my friend once said "Invariably, all girls make the wrong choice". Though I am not able to interrogate the verity of this statement, this seems to be true in at least most of the cases I know.

I am not trying to conclude anything out of this rambling. It is just that I don't understand why people want to maintain different behavior to different people. Why can't they be the same always.....